Kinky Tapas: Psychological Kink, Dominance & More

Luna Matatas & Marla Renee Stewart join us to offer a sneak peek into their Kinky Tapas retreat. They answer all of our questions including: How do I begin to explore my dominant side? What’s the difference between Dominance & submission versus Topping and Bottoming? How do I ensure safety when exploring psychological kink? How do I introduce a bit of kink into our existing sexual routine? When can pain be pleasurable? How can I explore genital worship and torture? Check out the Kinky Tapas seminar in Oakland, California April 29th - May 1st. (Use code KINKMEUP to save!) Hosted in two beautiful dungeons, the event includes catering & kinky photography and explorations of a range of topics including: Luna & Marla will take you to two dungeons in California where they’ll cover: Confidence and erotic creativity Scene Setting, Safety & Communication Commanding a Room Developing confidence and presence Dominant Do’s and Don’ts Submissive Communication Skills Rope Bondage Spanking & Other Impact Play Choking & Breath Play Sensation Play Genital Worship & Torture Strap-On Play Butt Play Fluid Fetishes Skills for Subs Common Fetishes Any additional fetishes that you’d like to know about! Don’t forget to send us your questions for the podcast here. We love hearing from you. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! And check out the computer-generated (unedited) transcript below: Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Kinky Tapas: Psychological Kink, Dominance & More Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your cohost, Brandon Denwear here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Hey. Hey. How are you? I'm pretty good. I'm excited to talk kink with you. Amazing. I'm always excited, Doc kink. Do you consider yourself kinky? I do not. Okay. But do you practice kink? I think we practice, yes. I don't think that we're very kinky in comparison to maybe the people and the professionals that were around. Right. And so even though we maybe do the things that are kinky, it's not a part of our identity. Yes. Like it's something we do, but not something that we feel we are. Is that maybe and I don't know that the people that were around, maybe they do feel like it's a part of who they are, their identity. But I'm comparing it to the people that we've talked to where their kinks that they've played into or out. Sorry, have been like, I'm going to get strapped into a dental chair and play out all sorts of and have my teeth pretend to be removed and all of that. And I'm like, wow, I am not kinky at all, if that's your barometer of what's kinky. Right. And you've seen people suspended from the ceiling by their skin at Kinky Dungeons, you've seen people getting lit on fire. I've gone into one of those, like, latex coffins where they suck all the air out. But you still don't consider that kinky? Well, I mean, it's because I've observed it, and I think because I'm seeing it, I'm not the physical participant. I don't feel like I'm the one who's really kinky, I guess. Yeah, I'm kinky for watching it. But those that are actually participating makes me feel like I see myself as a bystander. So I don't think I'm kinky in comparison. I definitely feel kinky. But I'm more on the psychological King side. And I think we're going to talk about that because today we are talking about Kinky Tapas. So Kinky Tapas is a seminar retreat in Oakland coming up April 28 to May 1,