When you feel like you have already progressed so far, it can be hard to force yourself to stop, turn back and look at the beginnings of your story. This is exactly what was being asked of me by my therapist. I did not like it. I was thriving! My business was successful, my kids and I were spending quality time together and my husband and I were living the dream.So why would I ever look to my past?At this point in my life, I kept trying to advance in the goals and dreams I had for myself, but nothing...
When you feel like you have already progressed so far, it can be hard to force yourself to stop, turn back and look at the beginnings of your story. This is exactly what was being asked of me by my therapist. I did not like it. I was thriving! My business was successful, my kids and I were spending quality time together and my husband and I were living the dream.
So why would I ever look to my past?
At this point in my life, I kept trying to advance in the goals and dreams I had for myself, but nothing was working out. Have you ever felt like you were doing everything in your power to make something happen and the results just would not show up? Well, I had to come to the hard realization, by my therapist, that all my chasing was for nothing if I continued to chase after my future.
Now, that sounds confusing so let me break it down. My problem wasn’t that I was going after my dreams. It was that I was pursuing my dreams so aggressively as a way to avoid what I actually needed to confront.
My past.
In trying to avoid the pain I still quietly carried in my heart, I was trying to trail blaze through all my goals for the future. I want to save you some time and tell you that you will only be able to get so far in your life, dreams and goals before you will have to turn back and confront.
My therapist was painfully spot on. The pain of dealing with what had happened in my family was too difficult to process. Hardships, financial problems, deaths, abandonment and more were too much for me to deal with then, and it still felt too hard as an adult. As a result, I decided, whether I realized it or not, that I would not stop to process the memories. I would simply outrun them instead.
Unsurprisingly, that didn’t work. I thought I still had to “become”. However, I would never feel like I “arrived” until I dealt with those broken pieces inside of me. Only then would I truly become the best version of myself and no longer have the need to chase anything.
If you can relate to any of this, I want you to know that it is your reality. You don’t have to chase anything. That instinct to chase comes from feeling that you still need to get work done before you can call yourself a success. Except, you already are a success. If you want the best for your life, you are already on the right track.
So instead of getting frustrated and discouraged in your pursuit to live your best life, make success chase you instead. How? You need to start from the beginning. Follow the three tips I learned along the way and implement them! I was surprised at how these small tips made such a huge impact in every area of my life.
How to Make Success Chase You
[10:25] Slow down to speed up. I know you want to run through your goals, but you would be amazed at how much you can get done when you take the time to slow down your pace.
[11:57] Allow your pain to unravel in layers. The process may take time. It could be days, weeks or months. Be gentle and give yourself the time you need to fully go through this process.
[18:18] Choose you. This does not make you selfish, it is necessary!
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References:
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