81. What Is Good Parenting? Eastern Vs Western Parenting. Mentioning Amy Chua, Dr Becky Kennedy.

What is good parenting = 1. Like school + 2. Have good friends + 3. Good parent / child relationship + 4. Good academic outcomes (top 10%) + 5. Good extra curricula. Eastern and Western parenting. It's important to remember that parenting styles within any culture. 1. *Education Focus*: - Eastern: There's often a strong emphasis on academic achievement, discipline, and respect for authority. - Western: Education may be more balanced with extracurricular activities, encouraging creativity and individual interests. 2. *Discipline*: - Eastern: Discipline is generally more strict, with a greater emphasis on obedience and conformity to family and societal expectations. - Western: Discipline may be more flexible, focusing on reasoning with the child and understanding their perspective. 3. *Independence*: - Eastern: Independence is encouraged later, often after foundational values and behaviors are instilled. - Western: There's a strong emphasis on fostering independence from an early age, including encouraging children to make their own choices. 4. *Family Structure*: - Eastern: A greater emphasis on extended family, with respect for elders and filial piety being central values. - Western: A focus on the nuclear family, with a more egalitarian approach to family roles. 5. *Emotional Openness*: - Eastern: Emotional restraint is often valued, with less open verbal expression of love and affection. - Western: There's generally more open expression of emotions and affection, both verbally and physically. 6. *Decision Making*: - Eastern: Parents often make key decisions for their children, even into their adult lives. - Western: Children are encouraged to participate in decision-making processes, even from a young age. 7. *Risk and Failure*: - Eastern: There can be a high aversion to risk and failure, with a focus on avoiding loss of face and maintaining honor. - Western: Risk-taking is often encouraged as a part of learning, and failure can be seen as an opportunity for growth. Western parenting expectations across the 1950s, 1980s, and 2020s. 1. **Discipline**: - 1950s: Generally strict, with corporal punishment more accepted. - 1980s: Moving towards less physical discipline, with time-outs becoming more common. - 2020s: Emphasis on positive discipline, understanding child psychology, and avoiding physical punishment. 2. **Education**: - 1950s: Education was more formal, with a strong focus on foundational skills and respect for authority. - 1980s: Increasing emphasis on holistic education, including personal development and extracurricular activities. - 2020s: Focus on technology literacy, critical thinking, and personalized learning paths; homeschooling and alternative education models gain popularity. 3. **Gender Roles**: - 1950s: Traditional gender roles were predominant, influencing how children were raised and what was expected of them. - 1980s: Beginning to challenge traditional gender roles, with more encouragement for girls to pursue careers and boys to express emotions. - 2020s: Greater acceptance of diverse gender identities and roles, with emphasis on gender-neutral parenting. 4. **Technology and Media**: - 1950s: Limited impact, with radio and early television being the main technologies. - 1980s: Growing influence of television, video games, and early personal computers. - 2020s: Digital natives; heavy influence of the internet, social media, smartphones, and varied digital platforms. 5. **Parental Involvement**: - 1950s: More authoritative parenting with less involvement in children’s play and exploration. - 1980s: Increasing parental involvement, with a shift towards more nurturing and supportive roles. - 2020s: Very high involvement in all aspects of children’s lives, often termed as "helicopter" or "lawnmower" parenting.