What If the Biggest Obstacle You Face Is a Child’s Addiction? with Barbara Decker

If you are dealing with your child’s addiction to drugs or alcohol, you're not alone! Barbara Decker, the Parent Recovery Advocate, knows how difficult it can be for a mom to free herself from the “Mom Code” – the reflexive tendency to try and solve problems for her child.  

Using her  model, you can create an emotionally safe space for your child and support them as they learn to navigate their own journey through addiction.  

Say goodbye to mom guilt and empower yourself to help your child face addiction more independently with Barbara's Love Another Way model.  

Tune in to this episode to learn how you can do just that! 

 

What you will learn from this episode:  

• Discover the life-changing power of the Love Another Way model as a mom
• Learn how to break out of the Mom Code and take more ownership of your life
• Understand why you can’t always be your child’s problem solver, but instead be heir guide 

 

“When we try to make a softer landing, when we try to solve those problems for our kids, they have no opportunity to learn the lessons that they need to learn to make better choices for themselves.” 

- Barbara Decker 

 

Valuable Free Resource:  

• Free yourself from any shame or guilt and finally reclaim your life. Start your journey here: https://go.livewellandfully.com/3-secrets-fb64-2/?v1-sbrown 

 

Topics Covered: 

02:08 - Breaking the Pattern: What is the biggest problem moms make 

03:13 - Barbara shares what is her golden answer 

03:53 - Breaking the Mom Code: The mistakes moms should avoid 

04:33 - Love Another Way: How Barbara can help you start new 

06:18 - Barbara explains another essence you need to know about the Love Another Way model 

09:40 - Free yourself from any shame or guilt and finally reclaim your life. Start your journey here: https://go.livewellandfully.com/3-secrets-fb64-2/?v1-sbrown 

10:53 - Q: The first part is, "What the heck, Barbara, is a mind disease?" And the second part is, "Why doesn't my son or daughter just buckle down and solve the problem? I taught them better than this! Is it just an excuse or laziness?" A:  And the answer is no, it is not an excuse or laziness. It has nothing to do with what you taught them or the kind of people they are. 

 

Key Takeaways:  

“There are things the mom can do that will encourage their child to take ownership of the problem. Only when their child takes ownership of their own problem, that there is the possibility of the child choosing to make a different choice.” - Barbara Decker 

“There's no guarantee. But there's pretty much a guarantee that if they don't change, nothing will change.” - Barbara Decker 

“It's important to say that there are no right or wrong choices, it's always a matter of choosing the least sucky of the terrible options available.” - Barbara Decker 

“We focus on ourselves, we let go of things that we were previously owning, and we give ownership back to the person who could actually make the change.” - Barbara Decker 

 

Barbara Decker’s Free Workshop: 

• Website: https://go.livewellandfully.com/3-secrets-fb64-2/?v1-sbrown 

 

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