104: Navigating Shame and Finances Post-Divorce with Clover Lam

2025-04-02

Have you ever had an experience that cracked you wide open? In Clover Lam’s case, it was going through divorce.In the aftermath of her divorce, she blamed herself and felt deeply inadequate. She didn’t understand what had happened to her. But after many years of personal work and introspection, Lam stepped back into and reclaimed her self-worth. And now, she helps other millennial women regain control of their finances and lead a thriving life post-divorce.Clover also shares more about her upcoming move to Ba...

Have you ever had an experience that cracked you wide open?

In Clover Lam’s case, it was going through divorce.

In the aftermath of her divorce, she blamed herself and felt deeply inadequate. She didn’t understand what had happened to her.

But after many years of personal work and introspection, Lam stepped back into and reclaimed her self-worth. And now, she helps other millennial women regain control of their finances and lead a thriving life post-divorce.

Clover also shares more about her upcoming move to Bali, putting into motion her dream of creating international retreats for divorced women.

Don’t miss out on this powerful episode, where you’ll hear more about Clover’s personal journey PLUS practical tips on how to manage your finances during a massive upheaval like a divorce.

THE TOP LEARNINGS IN THIS EPISODE:

Journey of Self-Worth: [00:02:35]
Influence of Childhood:. [00:06:34]
The Role of Shame: [00:11:05]
Managing Parental Expectations: [00:22:22]
Financial Independence Post-Divorce: [00:27:06]
The Importance of Authentic Self: [00:29:55]

Clover helps millennial single women reclaim their power and glow up after divorce or heartbreak. She transformed her own divorce into the ultimate opportunity to become her most authentic and abundant self. Over the past 10 years, she’s immersed herself in deep healing, traveled to 47 countries, and achieved financial independence — all of which have now given her the freedom to quit her 20-year flight attendant career and live her dream life in Bali. Through her signature framework, The Post-Heartbreak Glow-Up, Clover guides her clients to reclaim self-love, rediscover their identity, and thrive in health, wealth, and lifestyle.

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