080: Lee Tunney-Ware | The True Purpose of Your Communication

“Everything you do will come from you.” This is the belief of Lee Tunney-Ware, an experienced trainer, business coach, author, entrepreneur, transformational speaker, psychotherapist, stress management, counselor, and hypnotherapist. Lee boasts a track record for successful business management, growth, and problem-solving along with sales and marketing expertise driven by a passion for personal development. He is also an internationally published author and an effective motivational speaker with a proven ability to move audiences and inspire change.

I’m so excited to dive into Lee’s wealth of wisdom and knowledge as we talk about unlocking the true purpose of your communication and the secrets behind true collaboration.

In this Episode:

[00:01 - 08:24] Opening Segment

• I introduce and welcome Lee Tunney-Ware
• Executive coach
• Counselor and hypnotherapist
• Motivational speaker
• The importance of where we communicate from
• Communicating to vs from
• Communicating from the heart, mind, spirit, and biology
• How to know
• The X-box example
• How you respond
• What communication is for
• What part are you speaking from and to
• The time frame you use
• Present, past, or future
• What place are you speaking from
• Speaking to and from the heart
• Releasing all judgment

[08:25 - 23:19] The Purpose of Your Communication; Our Mindset

• How to align the four parts of communication
• Communication is external
• You can not think for another person
• Syncing your body and mind
• Where disagreements come from
• Expectations not being met
• Aligned Internally and externally
• How certain words and feeling match with different aspects of a person
• The truth behind meditation
• Meditation is not medication
• Speaking in complete respect one person to another
• Aligned by understanding the intent and purpose of the conversation
• Going about changing the mindset behind your communication
• Taking away all judgment
• Communication as a means of safety and community
• The way to pure communication
• Showing up free of expectations
• Mindset vs. setting your mind
• What people fear and what people want
• Pure collaboration
• How your decisions impact your communication
• Changing the future through your words
• The impact of our words on others

[23:20 - 39:55] The Subconscious Mind Doesn’t Exist; Communication Freedom

• Lee’s thoughts around the subconscious mind
• Questioning core societal beliefs
• The Menu of Life analogy
• The subconscious mind does not exist
• 95% of you is supposedly in the subconscious mind
• This would mean we only control 5% of ourselves
• Giving you control back
• The 1,000 Euro challenge
• ‘Show me the unconscious mind’
• Beliefs are barriers to the truth and the life you want
• Fight or Flight communication barriers
• Without freedom, there is no choice
• Finding true freedom internal communication
• If we knew everything was going to be ok, we wouldn’t need all the books
• Putting obstacles in our own future
• We create ourselves as the villain
• What isn’t an external danger, is a created anxiety
• Changing the future for everybody
• My beliefs and opinions shouldn’t get in the way of future generations
• My thoughts on the subconscious and true collaboration

[39:56 - 1:09:30] Closing Segment

• The most impactful conversation of your life?
• Lee shares a story about his time in Karate
• “No point in stepping on the mat, if you’ve already lost in your mind”
• Your mind will dictate your loss or win
• I am the master of me
• Internal communication
• You can’t talk to the subconscious mind because it IS you
• One communication skill you wish you had more of in the past?
• Having a presence
• Does it feel right, is it authentic?
• Making the shift away from argumentative conversations
• Sick of asking why and not getting an answer
• Realizing the need to change what is giving negative feelings
• Learning the real power of words
• Moving from I to we and me to us
• Who is the best communicator you know?
• Martin Luther King Jr. future focussed
• “I have a dream,” says everything
• “I’ve been to the mountaintop, and I’ve seen the Promised Land”
• Never had a victim mindset or exclusive language
• How to find Lee
• Links below
• If you’re looking to make a difference in the world
• Lee asks questions to me
• Do you have a partner you love?
• Do you always speak to them that way?
• Love is the blanket
• What do you want that other human to feel?
• Final rhetorical question for everyone
• Final Words

Tweetable Quotes:

"I learned very hard… the power of words; words and what power they have when answered by the right tongues, or simple words - how they can make or break any individual.” - Lee Tunney-Ware

“When we speak to another person we should speak with complete respect; Judgements aside, values aside. Just one human to another.” - Lee Tunney-Ware

“I’m interested in what IS right, I’m not interested in BEING right.” - Lee Tunney-Ware

Resources Mentioned:

• NLP Communication Model

You can connect with Lee on LinkedIn and Facebook or email success@transform.vip if you’re looking to make a real difference in the world.

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