Episode 85 - Compassion For Those Who Harm Us

In this episode we look at a practice to help us generate compassion for those who harm us. This can free us from the painful experience of anger. The method given in this episode is called taking and giving. It is a highly effective practice for overcoming many types of anger, including resentment and guilt. 

 

1. Analyzing your commitment

 

"I committed myself to achieving the benefit and happiness of all living beings when I generated the spirit of enlightenment. I act for others' welfare and care for all beings."

 

1. Showing that compassion is appropriate 

 

Contemplate from the depths of your heart, "All living beings have been in cyclic existence since beginningless time, and there is not one who has not been my friend and relative—father, mother, etc. Being impermanent, they lose their lives and are miserable due to the three types of suffering. Crazed by the demon of the afflictions, they destroy their own welfare in this and future lives. [411] I must generate compassion for them. How could it be right to get angry or to retaliate for harm?"

 

—Je Tsongkhapa 

 

For the ever-wakeful— 

Training day and night, 

Intent on Nirvana— 

The toxins disappear.

—Buddha, The Dhammapada 

 

Links and References

Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. Shambala, Boston and London, 2011, pp.60.

Je Tsongkhapa. Great Treatise on the Stages of the Path to Enlightenment, by Je Tsongkhapa, Volume 2. Translated by the Lamrim Chenmo Translation Committee. Joshua Cutler, Editor-in-Chief, and Guy Newlan, Editor, pp 165-166.