#46: Wondering is Work

In this episode, we talk about how hard it is for her as she is wondering:  is he doing recovery work?  Or not?

Some of the things women wonder about:

• is he cheating on me today?
• what if he is just checking the box?
• is he really living with integrity when I am not around?
• is he actually applying what we are investing time and money to learn?
• what is he doing when he isn't with me?
• is he standing up for me and honoring me when he is with our children?
• the list goes on… it's a LOT to carry

Ladies - I encourage you to journal out:  what is weighing on your mind as far as what you are wondering about when it comes to his recovery.

We then talk about:  what can he do to help with this wondering.  It comes down to transferring the burden.  Jason gives four strategies men can use to transfer the burden onto him.  I also mention some strategies she can use to free herself from this wondering.

We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us! 

• Jason mentions being a wife knower - see episode #41 for more on that.
• Jason also mentions episode #39 on Rebuilding Trust:  The Practicalities.  You can hear that episode here.
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