Dr. Merry Frons has been working with individuals’ and couples’ relationship issues for the past 25 years. Her training as a sex therapist grew out of her experience working with couples when she realized that sexuality issues were part of couples' concerns and had a large influence on the underlying couples’ dynamic. Dr. Merry is out with a new book, The Trust Solution, where she talks about how two spouses can work on building trust and a healthy relationship again; A topic both her and Dr. Rob dive into on this week’s episode!
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:25] A little bit about Dr. Merry Frons
[3:25] Why did Dr. Merry decide to write her book, The Trust Solution?
[5:20] So many people are dealing with intimacy betrayal issues and they need guidance and help. It’s difficult to navigate this space alone.
[6:55] What does the betrayed partner go through after they’ve discovered infidelity?
[8:15] Dr. Merry shares some of the important steps a hurt partner needs to focus on.
[10:45] If the cheating partner wants to work through this, what can they do?
[12:20] The biggest step to a better relationship is by being honest and coming clean.
[14:25] Sometimes a betrayed partner wants to know everything and anything, but there are limits to knowing everything.
[16:15] The betrayed spouse doesn’t want to continue the relationship, now what?
[18:40] if both parties want to make it work, what are the next steps?
[23:20] What does Dr. Merry mean by attunement in this context?
[26:45] The spouse that has broken the relationship is trying, but they might not know about the tools available to them to help build healing.
[27:25] How do you build a two-party system when you’re so hurt and angry? A real partnership?
[31:10] What does Dr. Merry mean by ‘flow’?
[33:50] There’s no right or wrong decision on whether to stay or go.
RESOURCES:
The Porn Panic: Is Porn a ‘Public Health Crisis’?
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Connect with Dr. Merry: Renewcounselingpllc.com
QUOTES:
The Call of Darkness with Dr. Larry Hedges
Understanding ACE’s (Adverse Childhood Experiences) with Dr. Tian Dayton
BONUS: All We Really Want is a Meaningful Connection with Dr. David Fawcett
Women Experience Porn Addiction Too with Lacy A. Bentley
Not Living The Life That We Want to Live — Sex Addiction Recovery with Jason Swilling
Are You Stuck in a Relationship Ditch? With Charlene Benson
Defining Love Again After a Betrayal with Michelle Mays
Sex, Porn and the Culture Wars: Being An Expert in a Disinformation Era
The Difference Between Addiction and Physical Dependence with Dr. Jennifer Schneider, M.D., PhD
8 Ways to Wellbeing with Dr. Sonnee Weedn
When Does Cheating End a Relationship? With Dr. Jennifer Schneider
What Mediation Looks Like When Couples Part Ways with Dina Haddad
ADHD In Relationships and Addiction with Dr. Todd Love
Partner Empathy with Carol the Coach
Loving an Addict with the Prodependence Model with Kim Buck
The Rules for Being a Man with Dan Griffin
Sex and the Law with Ian Friedman
Betrayal Trauma with Tim Stein
Addiction Treatment: What We Do and Why We Do It
Trauma and Addiction: The Connection with Dr. Jamie Marich
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