Dr. Merry Frons has been working with individuals’ and couples’ relationship issues for the past 25 years. Her training as a sex therapist grew out of her experience working with couples when she realized that sexuality issues were part of couples' concerns and had a large influence on the underlying couples’ dynamic. Dr. Merry is out with a new book, The Trust Solution, where she talks about how two spouses can work on building trust and a healthy relationship again; A topic both her and Dr. Rob dive into on this week’s episode!
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:25] A little bit about Dr. Merry Frons
[3:25] Why did Dr. Merry decide to write her book, The Trust Solution?
[5:20] So many people are dealing with intimacy betrayal issues and they need guidance and help. It’s difficult to navigate this space alone.
[6:55] What does the betrayed partner go through after they’ve discovered infidelity?
[8:15] Dr. Merry shares some of the important steps a hurt partner needs to focus on.
[10:45] If the cheating partner wants to work through this, what can they do?
[12:20] The biggest step to a better relationship is by being honest and coming clean.
[14:25] Sometimes a betrayed partner wants to know everything and anything, but there are limits to knowing everything.
[16:15] The betrayed spouse doesn’t want to continue the relationship, now what?
[18:40] if both parties want to make it work, what are the next steps?
[23:20] What does Dr. Merry mean by attunement in this context?
[26:45] The spouse that has broken the relationship is trying, but they might not know about the tools available to them to help build healing.
[27:25] How do you build a two-party system when you’re so hurt and angry? A real partnership?
[31:10] What does Dr. Merry mean by ‘flow’?
[33:50] There’s no right or wrong decision on whether to stay or go.
RESOURCES:
The Porn Panic: Is Porn a ‘Public Health Crisis’?
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Connect with Dr. Merry: Renewcounselingpllc.com
QUOTES:
Understanding Professionals in Crisis with Ryan Patrick Bayley, MD
Money, Power, and Sex with Debra Kaplan
Healing Trauma and Addiction through Connection with Andrew Susskind
Treating Sex and Drug Addiction Together with David Fawcett
About Disclosure with Mari Lee
Hold me Tight with Dr. Sue Johnson
The Cost of Neglect with Enod Gray
All About our Runaway Ego’s! With Dr. Lou Cox
Mental Health or Addiction? What you Need to Know With Dr. Candice Christiansen
Prodependence: Understanding the Treatment Model with Kim Buck
All About Sex and Relationship Healing with Joe Saavedra
Breaking Down our Defenses to Heal with Kristin Snowden
The Paradox of Intimacy and Hurt with Dr. Leon Seltzer
Managing Relationship Heartbreak with Terri Real
“We Do!” Saying Yes to Your Relationship with Dr. Stan Tatkin
The Human Magnet Syndrome with Ross Rosenberg
Answering Your Questions with Dr. Rob and Tami
What Men Caught Cheating Need To Know with Dr. Rob and Tami
Relationship Between Trauma and Addiction with Dr. Christine Courtois
Restarting Your Sex Life with Dr. Pat Love
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