Dr. Merry Frons has been working with individuals’ and couples’ relationship issues for the past 25 years. Her training as a sex therapist grew out of her experience working with couples when she realized that sexuality issues were part of couples' concerns and had a large influence on the underlying couples’ dynamic. Dr. Merry is out with a new book, The Trust Solution, where she talks about how two spouses can work on building trust and a healthy relationship again; A topic both her and Dr. Rob dive into on this week’s episode!
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:25] A little bit about Dr. Merry Frons
[3:25] Why did Dr. Merry decide to write her book, The Trust Solution?
[5:20] So many people are dealing with intimacy betrayal issues and they need guidance and help. It’s difficult to navigate this space alone.
[6:55] What does the betrayed partner go through after they’ve discovered infidelity?
[8:15] Dr. Merry shares some of the important steps a hurt partner needs to focus on.
[10:45] If the cheating partner wants to work through this, what can they do?
[12:20] The biggest step to a better relationship is by being honest and coming clean.
[14:25] Sometimes a betrayed partner wants to know everything and anything, but there are limits to knowing everything.
[16:15] The betrayed spouse doesn’t want to continue the relationship, now what?
[18:40] if both parties want to make it work, what are the next steps?
[23:20] What does Dr. Merry mean by attunement in this context?
[26:45] The spouse that has broken the relationship is trying, but they might not know about the tools available to them to help build healing.
[27:25] How do you build a two-party system when you’re so hurt and angry? A real partnership?
[31:10] What does Dr. Merry mean by ‘flow’?
[33:50] There’s no right or wrong decision on whether to stay or go.
RESOURCES:
The Porn Panic: Is Porn a ‘Public Health Crisis’?
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Connect with Dr. Merry: Renewcounselingpllc.com
QUOTES:
Understanding Millennials and Porn Addiction with Gabe Deem
Addicted to Internet Porn with Noah Church
Mother Hunger with Kelly McDaniel
Addiction, Impulsivity, and the Commitment to Change with Paula Hall
Codependence vs. Prodependence with Carol the Coach
Love is Everlasting with Dr. Harville Hendrix
Women in Sex and Love Addiction with Staci Sprout
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency with Dr. Rob and Tami
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men with Dr. Rob
Healthy Dating in Recovery with Jonathon Taylor and Jackie Pack
Working with Betrayed Partners with Michelle Mays
The Courage to Love with Paul Ginocchio
Rebuilding the Lost Connection in Human Sexuality with Dr. Carol Clark
The Cultural Era of Narcissism with Tara Lemasters
Celebrating Community, Opening Dialogue and Changing the Game: Dr. James Wadley
Redemption and Recovery with Tom Ryan
Drug and Sex Addiction (chem-sex) with Dr. David Fawcett
Shame, Honor and Culture with Sam Louie
Spirituality and Addiction: What does one have to do with the other with Mark Anthony Lord
Helping Heal Addiction with Dr. Rob and Tami
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