Stacey Duguid - DATING

Explicit content warning: conversation of a sexual nature and swearing

TW: mention of sexual abuse 

Dating can be a mixed bag when you’re living with ADHD, amiright?! There are some major traits jumping into bed with you and your partner from the get go: rejection sensitivity disorder, emotional lability, boredom, inattentiveness, hyperactivity, impulsivity… At best, you can be spontaneous and exciting, but the truth is, when you’re moving at 100mph and miss all the red flags, it can be dangerous. 

In this episode I’m joined by journalist and fashion icon, Stacey Duguid, who first shared her dating life anonymously as the Mademoiselle columnist in Elle Magazine, and now appears in The Telegraph having re-entered the world of dating a couple of years ago. Stacey was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021. 

Stacey shares how her neurodivergence has made her an easy target for narcissists in the dating pool, how dating apps play to her hyper focus and how the thrill of the new can override caution. We talk about performative sex, self love, boundary control and rejection sensitivity in this deep-dive into the dating world. Stacey also reveals how ADHD meds and HRT have changed the way she approaches dating, and the unexpected role Lily Allen has played…

Stacey’s new website, http://thefashiondepartment.com/ is coming soon. 

Scattered Minds by Gabor Maté 

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Scattered-Minds-Origins-Attention-Disorder/dp/1785042211

 

THE EXPERT

Dr Mohamed Abdelghani is a consultant psychiatrist who specialises in mood disorders and adult ADHD. www.Dyad-medical.com 

Please note, your first port of call if you think you might have ADHD should be your GP. In the meantime, you can find more information here: 

Understanding ADHD in Girls and Women, by Joanne Steer

https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/1787754006/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?ie=UTF8&qid=1646068472&sr=8-1

The ADHD Foundation 

https://adhdfoundation.org.uk/

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