Why do I fantasize about things I would never want in real life?

In this episode, DB answers an anonymous listener question about the differences between fantasies and what we want in real life. Remember: fantasies are just that. They don't make you a bad person! Let's dive into our psyches and see what the root of the fantasy might be -- and how those fantasies are trying to give us something we crave.

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ALSO LISTEN TO: "The Pleasure of Subbing with Lina Dune" and "Weird Sex Facts with Rachel Feltman"

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ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. Season 14 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex.

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SEASON 14 TEAM: Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her); Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them); Social Media & Communications Manager: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her)

MUSIC: Intro theme music: Hook Sounds; Background music: Bright State by Ketsa; Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa.; Thank you Ketsa!