#205: How to Process a Sudden Break-Up (AKA the ”Avoidant Discard”)

2025-09-09

When a relationship ends without warning, it’s common to feel blindsided, confused, and deeply hurt. This is often labelled the “avoidant discard” — but while that term might feel validating in the moment, it can also keep you stuck in a disempowering story.In this episode, we’ll talk about how to process a sudden ending in a way that honours your pain without leaving you tethered to it. We’ll explore:Why shock and lack of closure can intensify heartbreakThe difference between feeling discarded and being discarded

In this episode, we’ll talk about how to process a sudden ending in a way that honours your pain without leaving you tethered to it. We’ll explore:

Why shock and lack of closure can intensify heartbreak
The difference between feeling discarded and being discarded
How villain/victim narratives can hold you back from real healing
The impact of online echo chambers on your recovery
Practical steps to reclaim your agency and move forward

This isn’t about minimising what you’ve been through. It’s about finding a more grounded, self-responsible way to engage with what happened — so you can process it fully, integrate the lessons, and step into your next chapter with clarity and self-respect.

Highlighted Links

Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

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