S18 E21 - Friendship in the Lord: Appreciation and Reconciliation (Chapters 5 & 6)

In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on how loving appreciation and reconciliation are the places where friendship matures. We talk about why healthy adult friendships draw us closer to the Lord, how the unique gifts of women and men reveal different facets of God's love, and how learning to behold another's beauty without trying to grasp or possess it calls forth our true identity. We also discuss the importance of recognizing how we've hurt others, expressing sincere sorrow, and allowing others to do the same. As we bring our wounds, suffering, and sin into the love of Christ, we discover that the very places we fear most can become the biggest places of resurrection.

 

Other Resources Mentioned:

• Restore the Glory Podcast on Confession (Parts 1-3)

• S18 Forgiveness Meditation (with questions from the book Forgiving as Unity with Christ) 

• S11 Forgiveness Meditation with Sister Miriam

 

Announcement:

• You can buy your copy of Friendship in the Lord from Ave Maria Press (or Amazon).

 

Journal Questions:

• Am I maturing as a friend?
• What does the Holy Spirit want to teach me through my friendships?
• Am I currently experiencing conflict or frustration in a relationship? What is the pain or trigger I feel beneath the conflict?
• Can I receive the gift of beauty without trying to grasp or possess it?
• How have I failed to uphold the dignity of my friends?
• Am I experiencing the fullness of who I am?
• What parts of myself am I hiding from my relationships?

 

Discussion Questions:

• When have you experienced your own uniqueness in a friendship? Did you experience your uniqueness as a gift to give or as an insecurity to hide?
• How is the Lord inviting you to more freely receive your friends rather than possessing them?
• How have you participated in belittling or sarcasm in your relationships?
• How have you participated in or been on the receiving end of judgment within friendships?
• Where does the Lord want to love you into a place of freedom?

 

Quote to Ponder:

"The intimacy of adult friendship in the Spirit can teach us to aspire to the fullest possible intimacy with the Lord himself. The tenderness of one friend toward another is the image of God's own tenderness, when the friends truly love each other in the Spirit." (Friendship in the Lord, Page 62)

Scripture for Lectio:

"Therefore as God's chosen people, holy and dearly beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues, put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." (Colossians 3:12-14)

 

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:10 Scripture Verse and Quote to Ponder

02:03 Am I Maturing as A Friend?

07:57 Our Different Gifts Reveal Facets of God

11:45 Appreciating Beauty Without Grasping

14:28 Upholding the Dignity of Another

16:03 Receiving Ourselves as A Gift

18:37 Judgement Makes Us Blind

20:30 Exposing Our Weaknesses to the Light

22:00 Remaining Faithful to Our Friends

25:50 Reconciling with God and Others