Ep. 83: How to Change People Pleasing Behavior

2022-07-05

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People pleasing is different from cooperation. People pleasing is different from cooperation. Cooperation = connection, no loss of autonomy, requires frustration tolerancePeople Pleasing = abandoning self because it is too scary or uncomfortable to regulate through the rupture in the relationship. People pleasing is a stress-response. It’s a behavior that the “Trickster” possum uses when the possum pathway is activated. If you aren’t sure what I mean by possum pathway, check out this po...

People pleasing is different from cooperation.

Cooperation = connection, no loss of autonomy, requires frustration tolerance

People Pleasing = abandoning self because it is too scary or uncomfortable to regulate through the rupture in the relationship.

People pleasing is a stress-response. It’s a behavior that the “Trickster” possum uses when the possum pathway is activated.

If you aren’t sure what I mean by possum pathway, check out this podcast/blog: https://robyngobbel.com/possumbrain

I also describe the owl, watchdog, and possum brain in my free eBook, Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior

Some folks call this people-pleasing behavior “fawn.”

I call this “trickster” behavior.

Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/PeoplePleasing

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