E212: Why You Flinch When Your Partner Touches You (And How To Fix It) ”The Bristle Reaction”

Have you heard of The Bristle Reaction? It’s a term Vanessa coined—and when we posted about it on TikTok, over 8 million people watched. (You can watch that here 👉 https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7206335375453867306?lang=en)

The Bristle Reaction is that moment when your partner reaches out for a hug or a kiss… and your body instinctively recoils. Even when you love your partner deeply, their touch can sometimes create a sense of tension or irritation—and it’s more common than you think.

We asked our Instagram audience, and a whopping 84% said they’ve experienced this reaction. But the question we keep hearing is: “How do we fix it?”

In this episode, we break down:

• The 3 biggest reasons The Bristle Reaction happens

• 6 actionable ways to start enjoying your partner’s touch again

• Why this topic hits so close to home for so many couples

If physical affection has started to feel complicated or triggering, this episode will give you clarity, tools, and hope.

🔗 Links & Resources:

• 📘 Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life

• 📝 Initiation 101 Guide ➡️  https://buy.vmtherapy.com/art-of-initiation?ref=podcast-212&utm_term=podcast-212

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