Beginners always feel super intimidated at the golf course. Everyone seems to be experts. They all know how to dress, hit great shots, and have so much fun. Starting out can feel overwhelming.
I'm here to tell you that nobody feels as comfortable as they look. Everyone deals with the same anxiety, worries, and fear of embarrassment. Golf is hard for everyone...but that doesn't mean it's not a ton of fun.
I believe it's a matter of perspective. The sooner beginner's own the fact that they're not going to be the best out there for a while, the more fun you'll have. Truth is that if you take a careful look around, all those members aren't hitting nearly as good of shots as they seem. Do some people watching and see for yourself.
Adjust your expectations, own your beginner-ness, and pick some friends to play with who are going to have some fun no matter what.