Brian and Judson celebrate 100 episodes with Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Sydney James Harcourt and talk sex with straight men, preferring faceless Grindr profiles, his affair with Andy Cohen, recognizing realness as a trauma response, and more

It’s Dads and Daddies 100th episode! Judson and Brian reminisce about the days before they were open to the idea of non-monogamy. They attend the LGBTQ Community Center of New York’s annual fundraising gala. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who shares the details of a recent session with a regular of more than a decade that he describes as being one of his best hookups ever. Brian and Judson are then joined by the sexiest cat on Broadway, Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Rum Tum Tugger himself, Sydney James Harcourt! Sydney talks about his journey from a childhood in Michigan spent hiding in the closet, feeling unattractive, uncool, unmanly and seeking comfort in food, to moving to New York and feeling othered as a minority man in the mainstream gay scene, to the person he is today exuding sex and confidence on a Broadway stage eight times a week. He tells them about the role that connections and community played in his transformation, how he found the sexiness of Rum Tum Tugger, and about how “Realness,” Tugger’s ballroom category that showcases a person’s ability to pass as straight, is, at its core, a trauma response to homophobia. Sydney gets even more personal and talks about some of the various reasons he likes to have sex, the demise of finding hookups on Craig’s List, his “mad, passionate lust affair” with Andy Cohen, why we should have sex with the straight men on the apps, and his preference for faceless Grindr profiles. Sydney then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener in his 30s who is newly out of the closet and wants to know what the three consider must-have experiences for a gay man.

Find Sydney James Harcourt on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sydneyharcourt/ 

Check out Austin Naked Yoga camp to join Judson for his “Dial into Daddy” workship at https://www.nakedyogacamp.com/ 

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