He Said/She Said: Sex/Life with Manwell Reyes

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!

 

I am doing a 3-part podcast series with Manwell Reyes called He Said/She Said where we dive into some deep topics and approach them from our different perspectives. Last week we spoke about double standards (you can listen to that here). This week, we’re talking about the Netflix show Sex/Life, tackling questions like can you have it all? And does size matter? Warning: There will be spoilers ahead and of course discussions that you may want to save for when you have headphones available to you.

 

Let’s Talk About Sex (Drive)

• The woman in the show says everything in her life is 85% perfect and the 15% that’s missing is the exciting sex life she had in a previous relationship when she was younger and living in NYC. She is now married to a man she loves and has beautiful children, but she keeps thinking about that 15%.

 

• “You give up a lot on the way to success.” - Manwell Reyes

• “Responsibility is the number one killer of libido.” - Kat Harris

 

• We’re constantly taught that men are always thinking about sex, but in reality everybody has a different sex drive.
• Manwell opens up about his own experience with dropping testosterone and sex drive.

 

We talk about: Does Size Matter + Can You Have It All?

 

• “I wonder if we’ve bought into this lie of wanting the 100% 100% of the time. I basically want a person who is the merging of 10 different people.” - Kat Harris

 

• The standards we’ve set are too high for any one person to meet.

 

• “You’re not 100% of everything they want.” - Manwell Reyes

 

• We talk about the idea of having multiple partners.

 

• “To this day, even though we overdo it with the romanticism, it all comes down to a contract of ‘What am I willing to be okay with because we both know we’re imperfect people. Is what you bring to the table worth it for me to give up on the things I want or say that I want?’” - Manwell Reyes

 

 

Resources

• Listen to the first part in this series about double standards here.
• Hear more of my thoughts on Sex/Life here.
• Check out Manwell’s podcast, Nights at the Round Table.
• Listen to the Nights at the Round Table hosts on TRC talking about deconstruction and waiting for marriage to have sex.
• Check out Rockefeller Center on IG at @rockefellercenter and Twitter at @rockcenternyc

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