111. Learn To Emotionally Regulate in Intimate Relationships with Kat Smailis

2023-10-31

Themes: Emotional/Nervous System Regulation, Relationships, Intimacy Episode: How do you regulate when you are triggered by the actions of your partner? Occupational therapist and relationship expert Kat Smailis joins Cait and Lindsay for the second time on Rewire, to discuss the significance of nervous system regulation in intimate relationships. Learn about some of the most commonly seen emotional differences between men and women, how stress affects relationships, and how to better intimacy with your partner t...

Themes: Emotional/Nervous System Regulation, Relationships, Intimacy

Episode:

How do you regulate when you are triggered by the actions of your partner? Occupational therapist and relationship expert Kat Smailis joins Cait and Lindsay for the second time on Rewire, to discuss the significance of nervous system regulation in intimate relationships. Learn about some of the most commonly seen emotional differences between men and women, how stress affects relationships, and how to better intimacy with your partner through emotional regulation.

Show Notes:

-Click here to get Vital Side's Intro program "Reset" for $5 with code RESET5

-Kat sharing how her practice has grown and evolved since she was last on the podcast (click here to listen to episode 27)

-How Kat's practice shifted to working with predominantly men; the difference between men and women when it comes to intimacy; how societal pressures affect the emotional intelligence of men

-Learning that any emotional experience you have is trapped energy from a past experience/trauma

-Tools on how to emotionally regulate during difficult situations/fights or disagreements with your partner; noticing the cues of your body and becoming more self aware of when you need space and time to cool off or reflect before engaging

-The importance of co-regulating with a partner

-Lindsay describing the "Buddha bubble," a regulation tool she uses with her husband

-Kat describing simple ways to start the process of emotional regulation, even if you are completely new to the work

Resources:

-Click here to listen to Kat's first episode on Rewire (Ep 27)

-Click here for Kat's free masterclass on stress and intimacy

-Find Kat on: Youtube here and Instagram here

-Follow Rewire on Instagram here

-Click here to get Vital Side's Intro program "Reset" (as mentioned in the episode) for $5 with code RESET5

-Lindsay's Instagram: @myvitalside

-Visit Lindsay's Website

-Cait's Instagram: @caitmurphy.co