The Hidden Cost of Trying to Be Enough — Beneath The Surface

2025-05-30

What if the version of you the world rewards isn’t the version that makes you feel alive? We’ve been taught that we have to earn love. Earn rest. Earn our right to belong. But what if the model is backwards? What if Being is the starting point — not the reward at the end of striving? In this episode, I unpack the hidden cost of tying your worth to outcomes, approval, and perfection… and explore what becomes possible when we finally come home to ourselves. This is not a self-help checklist. It’s an invitation to slow down, to examine the identity you’ve built, and to consider who you might be without the need to earn your value. ...

What if the version of you the world rewards isn’t the version that makes you feel alive?

We’ve been taught that we have to earn love. Earn rest. Earn our right to belong.

But what if the model is backwards?
What if Being is the starting point — not the reward at the end of striving?

In this episode, I unpack the hidden cost of tying your worth to outcomes, approval, and perfection… and explore what becomes possible when we finally come home to ourselves.

This is not a self-help checklist. It’s an invitation to slow down, to examine the identity you’ve built, and to consider who you might be without the need to earn your value.

We’ll explore:

Why your peace can’t depend on performance
Why freedom doesn’t live in conditional mindsets
How self-trust changes everything
The real difference between love and approval
What opens up when you’re rooted in presence and open to possibility

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