#249 | Can You Really Forgive After Infidelity? Finding Your Way Back to Peace

One of the most painful questions I get asked: "Todd, how do I forgive my partner after they cheated on me?" It feels like a monumental task when you've been so hurt, so tossed around, so dishonored by your partner's secrets.

Here's what I want you to know right up front - you don't have to forgive. That's totally up to you. But if you can, it makes you feel better because forgiveness is really about the person forgiving, not the person being forgiven.

In this episode, I walk you through the two different paths of forgiveness after infidelity: when you stay with your partner and when you don't. Each path looks different, but both require you to feel the pain before you can let it go.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why you don't have to forgive (but why it might help you) 

• The two situations where forgiveness makes sense 

• How to forgive when you're not staying together 

• What it looks like when a partner is actually safe to forgive 

• Why infidelity is a symptom, not the core issue 

• How to talk to the protective part of you that doesn't want to forgive 

• Living in the world of probability instead of demanding certainty 

• Why forgiveness is a process, not a one-time event

You can't let go of pain that you don't feel. You got to feel first. It's like a tight fist and then you just let it go. Maybe you do that a thousand times, but you start to enjoy the feeling of being open again.

Whether you stay or go, I want you to give yourself permission to soften the wall, loosen the ties, and be open to have the love you deserve.

My "Healing Infidelity From the Inside Out" approach isn't about quick fixes. It's about growing through the crisis so you have more options, more maturity, and become healthier individuals.

💜 Healing From The Inside Out:  https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity-inside-program
💜 Infidelity First Aid Kit: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/infidelity-first-aid

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Check out my complete program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclass

Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com  

HELPFUL LINKS:

• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity 
• Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
• 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM
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