#070 Boundaries are about being true to yourself, not a way to control your kids

This week on the podcast I am talking about boundaries and limits.

Boundaries in parenting are about understanding our own comfort levels and needs in a given moment with our children.

They are internal and help us establish limits with our kids.

These limits don't have to be harsh or controlling; they can be set in a gentle, loving, and warm manner. Boundaries and limits are not about trying to control our children but rather about being authentic with our children and maintaining our own well-being at the same time.

Setting boundaries is about honouring our own needs and comfort levels, which in turn allows us to have more compassion for others. When we communicate clear boundaries, we avoid resentment and are better able to meet the needs of our children. 

It is crucial to respect and honour our children's preferences and needs whenever possible, helping them develop a strong connection to themselves as they grow older. This can be challenging in today's world, but even small steps towards honouring their preferences can make a difference.

I invite parents to regularly check in with themselves when making parenting decisions, asking if they are comfortable with a situation in a given moment. By setting limits based on this self-assessment, parents can maintain an authentic connection with their child, rather than trying to control them.

If you are ready to put these ideas into practice in your own parenting, come and work with me over in the Peaceful Parent School.  Click here to find out more and book your place.
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