EP 112: The Dark Truth of Solo Recovery

In today’s episode of the Pørn to Purpose podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon for a raw, unfiltered conversation about something most men battling pørn addiction try to avoid: solo recovery.

We’re exposing the dark truth of trying to “man up” and handle this thing alone. Coach Yeadon shares his own story—how he used all the filters, accountability tools, and white-knuckled willpower… and still stayed stuck.

We’re talking about the shame that keeps men isolated, the lies we tell ourselves, and the way pørn thrives in secrecy. Most importantly, we lay out the one thing that truly moves the needle: connection.

If you’ve been white-knuckling it, hiding your habit, or waiting until you “get clean” before asking for help—this episode is your wake-up call.

Top 10 Show Highlights:

[00:12] I introduce today’s theme: the dark truth of solo recovery.
[01:24] The secret shame of hidden pørn use—and a gut-check moment: “Would you hand your daughter your phone?”
[01:53] “The opposite of addiction is not sobriety—it’s connection.”
[03:20] Filters, apps, and promises to loved ones don’t work without real support.
[04:06] Coach Yeadon’s confession: “I gave my wife access to my pørn reports... and still found workarounds.”
[04:11] “Solo recovery is a trap.”
[05:42] The lies that kept us stuck: “I just need more discipline” and “No one needs to know.”
[06:42] “I trained for an Ironman. I had discipline. But I was still watching pørn.”
[07:12] The lie of waiting: “Once I get clean, then I’ll reach out.”
[08:10] Shame thrives in silence. Progress crumbles in isolation.

 

Resources & Links Mentioned:

Join the Pørn to Purpose Community on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose

Apply for the Liberation Bootcamp
https://www.porntopurpose.com