Relational Mindfulness: From Trauma to Connection - Terry Real

Get early access to our latest psychology lectures: http://bit.ly/new-talks5 Research tells us that our autonomic nervous system scans our body four times per second asking “am I safe?, am I safe? am I safe? am I safe?” If the answer is ‘yes’, we stay neurobiologically in our prefrontal cortex, the most mature part of our brain, our wise adult self, the part of us that is here and now that can observe, reason and decide. However, if the answer is ‘no, I don’t feel safe’, more primitive parts of our neurology get activated. The wise adult self shuts down and the more primitive reactive automatic parts of our nervous system take over. We find ourselves, despite our best intentions, repeating the same dysfunctional moves in relationships that we first learned in our childhood. The sense of the whole of US, disappears and we move into a you and me, win or lose adversarial contest. The spiritual teacher, Krishnamurti, once said “True liberation is freedom from our own automatic responses.” This workshop teaches the skill of ‘relational mindfulness’, the cultivation of our wise adult selves even in heated moments. Trauma pulls us into immature behaviors in our relationships and learning mature relational skills has the power to heal our deepest injuries. --- Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents along with a professional training program for clinicians to learn his Relational Life Therapy methodology. He is the bestselling author of “I Don’t Want to Talk About It”, “How Can I Get Through to You?”, and “The New Rules of Marriage”. You can check more of his work at https://terryreal.com Links: - Get our latest psychology lectures emailed to your inbox: http://bit.ly/new-talks5 - Check out our next event: http://theweekenduniversity.com/events - Terry’s website: https://terryreal.com - Terry’s books: https://terryreal.com/product-category/books - Terry’s audio books & courses: https://terryreal.com/product-category/audio-books-courses - Terry’s new book “US” PRE-ORDER at: https://terryreal.com/us-book --- Attachment Theory & Psychotherapy - Free Online Course (worth £99) In Exchange for Podcast Reviews. We’re offering free access to our Attachment Theory and Psychotherapy Online Course - which normally costs £99 in exchange to those who leave a review on our podcast. The course is run by Professor Jeremy Holmes - one of the world’s leading experts in how attachment theory can be applied to improve therapeutic practice. Just so you know I’m not making this up, Peter Fonagy has described Professor Holmes’ latest book as “one of the most valuable contributions to the field in this century.” Normally this course costs £99. But you can get it for free simply by leaving a review of this podcast on the platform you use - whether that’s itunes, stitcher or spotify. Then, simply email us on support@theweekenduniversity.com and we’ll grant you free access to the course. Reviews make a huge difference in helping us get the ideas shared by our speakers out to a wider audience, so not only will you be getting a £99 course free of charge, you’ll also be helping a greater number of people improve their quality of life. Thanks for your continued support of the project, and I hope you enjoy today’s show.