E19: Luis Mojica - Fawning: Unpacking The Most Rewarded Trauma Response in Society

2024-05-06

Joining Lauren on the Aligned Love Podcast today is Luis Mojica. Luis teaches people how to find safety in themselves through somatic education and nutrition. Through his work, he aims to destigmatize trauma and addiction through compassionate understanding. Amongst other accolades, Luis teaches an online course to thousands of people across the globe, leads retreats, hosts a weekly podcast, and boasts a plethora of knowledge on somatics, nutrition, and the nervous system. Don’t miss out on this incredibly insightful conversation with Luis as we dive into his unique journey into somatic work. He also defines the concept of co-regulation, how that differs from co-dependence, and how to set and keep healthy boundaries with it. We dive deeply into the fawning response as Luis unpacks it beautifully, including how to first recognize fawning in your life, society’s influence on it as the most rewarded trauma response, and how fawning impacts sexuality and sexual intimacy. Join the conversation to hear all this, and so much more, from our amazing guest on today’s episode!

Key Points From This Episode:

He details his story and unique journey into somatic work, which he pairs with nutrition.
Luis shares the concept of co-regulation, offering listeners a clearer grasp of its meaning and sensation within the body and nervous system.
How co-regulation and co-dependence differ.
We dive into the term empath and how co-regulation functions within the dating world.
He delves into the process of first recognizing the fawning response, society’s influence on fawning, and then how to initiate a conscious shift.
Luis shares how listeners can start their journey into awareness of the fawning response.
The importance of connecting with yourself (stepping into awareness with yourself).
Luis shares his answer to our wrap-up question: what does aligned love, or being in an aligned relationship, mean to him.

Quotes:

“The really simple way to put it is co-regulation is when your body experiences safety or calm or ground with another being or another body.”— Luis Mojica [0:08:15]

“Fawning is a hybrid; it’s freeze met with performance — you freeze your authentic expression [and] perform the opposite.” — Luis Mojica [0:17:32]

“When you stop fawning you become seen, your honesty comes through, and you disappoint people naturally. Because that’s what we do when we are in honest relationships, we disappoint each other, we trigger each other, we create frictions, that’s beautiful [and] is part of intimacy.” — Luis Mojica [0:33:12]

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