76: How and why to stop the blame game we all play when going through divorce

2024-02-28

Blaming - holding others responsible for our pain, discomfort, troubles or anything going badly in our lives. Extremely prevalent during divorce. Everyone wants to be the "good one", the "innocent one" and for no one to perceive us as having caused the divorce or the unhappiness within ourselves or in the other person. All very ego driven. And very normal and understandable because when we blame we feel less vulnerable, less like failures and we receive sympathy, support and validation. But...

Blaming - holding others responsible for our pain, discomfort, troubles or anything going badly in our lives. Extremely prevalent during divorce.

Everyone wants to be the "good one", the "innocent one" and for no one to perceive us as having caused the divorce or the unhappiness within ourselves or in the other person.

All very ego driven. And very normal and understandable because when we blame we feel less vulnerable, less like failures and we receive sympathy, support and validation.

But there are costs to the blame game and not just for the one you are blaming.

One of the biggest ones: It holds you in the past and in the pain.

So join me for this important conversation to help you heal and move forward now that your marriage or relationship is over.

Same strategies apply to issue with people in your family, at work etc.

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