Foster care and adoption are full of ambiguous losses and disenfranchised grief. In this episode, Lisa and Melissa discuss the gap between expectations and reality which can lead to feelings of grief. They offer tangible practices, including writing, verbal processing, and bodywork. The importance of acknowledging and processing darker emotions such as sadness, anger, or resentment without judgment is emphasized. Lastly, they mention adapting these practices for children experiencing similar grief and loss.
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Relevant LinksReclaim Compassion: The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Overcoming Blocked Care with Neuroscience and Faith* by Qualls and Corkum
#33: Grieving the unexpected losses in adoption
#121: An Introduction to Trauma & Tension Release Exercise (TRE) with Christa Bevan
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#184: [Summer Swap] Redefining Success in Adoptive Parenting
#183: [Summer Swap] Following God Into The Hard
#182: [workshop] Speech & Language Development After Trauma with Cara Mohundro
#181: Multi Generations of Adoption from Three Sides of the Triad with Kitty Ravert
#180: Mistakes You Might Be Making When Giving Consequences with Melissa Corkum
#179: [mailbag] attachment, felt safety, teens, and praying for our kids
#178: [workshop] Is it Trauma or ADHD? with Kay Heikes
#177: Attachment and Connection for Overwhelmed Parents with Lisa Qualls
#176: [mailbag] adding more kids, residential treatment, unreasonable fears, car rides
#175: Helping Your Child Honor and Grieve Birth Parents with Jennifer Woolley
#174: Encouragement for Weary Moms as Mother’s Day Approaches
#173: [workshop] Letting Go of Shame-Based Strategies with Greg Lombard Rea
#172: The Problem with Staying Calm
#171: Why the Golden Rule Doesn’t Work When Parenting with Jennifer Hiltebeitel
#170: [mailbag] birth family visits, not having early photos, aggression towards moms
#169: Putting Our Hope in God When Parenting is Hard with Lisa Qualls
#168: [Workshop] Connecting the Dots Between Addiction and Adoption with Jamie Engel
#167: Creating a Culture of Belonging with Gaelin Elmore
#166: [mailbag] TBRI with limited language, chore avoidance, lying
#165: [workshop] When Puberty and Trauma Meet
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