Macro vs. Micro People Pleasing

2024-05-08

Happy Wednesday. 😊 I had this interesting epiphany a few weeks ago in a conversation with a friend of mine and thought, yup, we need to talk about that on The Transforming Anxiety Podcast. I think most of us can find ourselves somewhere on the spectrum of *people pleasers*. It's pretty ingrained in us from a young age that making the people around us happy means: we get attention, we get approval, we get love. And through a variety of reasons, we make this mean different things: If I live my life in ways people want and expect, they will like me If I do what I'm supposed to do, they will like me If I always say "yes," they will like me If I am selfless and available, they will like me If I prioritize their wants / needs, they will like me We all run theme and variations of this stuff in our minds. It's like the calculus of belonging... I want to look at a really specific aspect of people pleasing today and that is: how it shows up on a macro level and how that differs from micro-level people pleasing. Same thing, but different lenses. And when we see BOTH, we can recognize this behavior for what it is...

Happy Wednesday. 😊 I had this interesting epiphany a few weeks ago in a conversation with a friend of mine and thought, yup, we need to talk about that on The Transforming Anxiety Podcast.

I think most of us can find ourselves somewhere on the spectrum of *people pleasers*. It's pretty ingrained in us from a young age that making the people around us happy means: we get attention, we get approval, we get love.

And through a variety of reasons, we make this mean different things:

If I live my life in ways people want and expect, they will like me
If I do what I'm supposed to do, they will like me
If I always say "yes," they will like me
If I am selfless and available, they will like me
If I prioritize their wants / needs, they will like me

We all run theme and variations of this stuff in our minds. It's like the calculus of belonging...

I want to look at a really specific aspect of people pleasing today and that is: how it shows up on a macro level and how that differs from micro-level people pleasing. Same thing, but different lenses.

And when we see BOTH, we can recognize this behavior for what it is...

Join me for this episode the podcast and let's talk about it...

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