What Does Christian Love Really Look Like? (Christian Character Series Part IX)

We have arrived! This episode explores the final and highest rung of the Apostle Peter’s “virtue ladder”- agape, the selfless, God‑shaped love that defines the true purpose of Christian character. We walk through how each previous rung—faith, moral excellence, knowledge, self‑control, perseverance, godliness and brotherly kindness—builds the capacity to reach this culminating form of love. While Strong’s Concordance’s Greek definition of agape may sound simple or even underwhelming, Scripture masterfully fills the word with depth, weight and divine intention. This eight and final rung powerfully reveals the height what our Christian characters aspire to!

The love of God Himself

Agape is the love God demonstrates in giving His only begotten son. It is the love Jesus lived by laying down his life, and the love the apostles taught as the unmistakable evidence of spiritual maturity. This love is “disinterested” in the classical sense—free from selfish motive, seeking no advantage and offered even when it is not reciprocated.

It is critical to remember that while this kind of love grows out of brotherly kindness, it surpasses it by embracing even the hardest expressions of love: loving enemies, blessing those who persecute us and caring for those we don’t naturally like. A powerful illustration of this is the story of Maximilian Kolbe, who voluntarily took another man’s place in a starvation bunker at Auschwitz—an act that embodied Christlike, sacrificial agape.

The first few verses of 1 Corinthians 13, show us how this kind of love must shape what we as Christians say, know and do; without it, eloquence becomes noise, knowledge becomes pride, and even great acts of sacrifice lose their spiritual value. Finally, we observe how the Scriptures remind us that perfect love casts out fear, and that agape matures in us as we continually practice the earlier virtues. When brotherly love is strong and relationships are aligned with God’s will, agape becomes the defining purpose of a disciple’s life, shining as the highest expression of Christlikeness.

Key Takeaways

• Agape is the highest rung of Christian character, built on the foundation of the previous seven virtues.
• Strong’s definition is insufficient—Scripture reveals agape as God’s own selfless, sacrificial love.
• Jesus models agape through his willingness to lay down his life.
• Agape includes loving enemies and those we don’t naturally like.
• Without agape, words, knowledge and actions lose spiritual value (1 Corinthians 13).
• Perfect love casts out fear, revealing maturity and alignment with God’s purpose.