Shame is a liar

Have you ever said something you regret… and then spent hours replaying it in your mind like you can somehow undo it? In this episode of This Daring Adventure, Trista Guertin breaks down the truth about shame: it isn’t proof that you’re a good person, and it isn’t what creates growth. Shame is a thought pattern that keeps you stuck in self-attack, overthinking, and people-pleasing. You’ll learn why shame isn’t caused by what you did—it’s caused by what you’re thinking about what you did right now. Using the Life Coach School Model (C-T-F-A-R), Trista teaches you how to separate the facts from the story, find the emotion underneath the reaction, and shift into self-leadership and self-trust. If you’re a woman who’s ready to make a real change, this episode will help you break the shame spiral and step back into your power.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. Why shame is NOT the same thing as accountability
2. The real reason you can’t “let it go” after you mess up
3. How shame fuels spiraling, over-apologizing, and emotional exhaustion
4. How to separate the fact of what happened from the story you’re making it mean
5. Why you don’t need to feel bad to do better
6. How to use the Life Coach School Model (C-T-F-A-R) to shift out of shame fast
7. The most important question to ask after you regret something you said or did
8. How to repair, learn, and move forward without abandoning yourself

Key Takeaways

1. Shame doesn’t make you better—it makes you smaller.
2. Shame is not growth. It’s self-punishment.
3. Your past isn’t creating your shame—your current thinking is.
4. When you find the emotion underneath the reaction, you stop making yourself wrong.
5. Self-trust is built through compassion + clean learning, not self-attack.

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