When Words Hurt: How Inner Critics and Tone Trigger Disconnection

In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores why partners often feel like they “say the wrong thing” or come across as too critical. Drawing on a listener’s story, she highlights how inner criticism, rejection sensitivity, and Enneagram One tendencies can fuel negative interaction cycles.

Dr. Tracy offers practical strategies—such as pausing before speaking, softening startups, naming the cycle, and practicing the Most Generous Interpretation—to help couples move from disconnection to repair. Emphasizing self-awareness, empathy, and emotional safety, she shows how couples can shift out of criticism and defensiveness into healthier communication, deeper connection, and stronger relationships.

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