005. Believing You Are Worthy: The CPTSD Pattern Beneath This

What is the root cause of feeling unworthy?

The unworthiness wound is one of the clearest signs of unresolved CPTSD. It does not come from weakness or lack of confidence. It comes from growing up without reliable emotional attunement, where your worth was never mirrored back to you consistently. Over time, that absence becomes a narrative: I must not matter.

This episode explains why the unworthiness wound feels so convincing, how it forms inside the CPTSD ecosystem, and how you can begin gathering your own evidence of value so you can resolve CPTSD at the root.

• How do I make myself feel more worthy?
• Why do I struggle so much with feeling worthy?

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About Dr. Tanner Wallace

Dr. Tanner Wallace is a childhood trauma survivor, former university professor, and Level 3 Internal Family Systems Practitioner who specializes in CPTSD Resolution. She founded CPTSD Medicine to offer applied mental health training for high-achieving adults who want a clear, structured path to heal trauma at the root and stop repeating painful relationship patterns.

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Each episode breaks down how trauma shapes your emotions, triggers, and relationship choices, and offers practical, research-informed steps to heal at the root. Learn how to stop trauma-driven reactions, understand emotional flashbacks, build secure attachment, create healthier relationships, and finally feel safe inside your own system.

Hosted by Dr. Tanner Wallace, PhD and Level 3 Internal Family Systems practitioner, this podcast provides applied mental health training for adults who want clarity, stability, and a structured path to CPTSD Resolution.

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What is the root cause of feeling unworthy?

The unworthiness wound intensifies our suffering. Begin gathering your own evidence of what works, so you can finally resolve CPTSD at the root.

• How do I make myself feel more worthy?
• Why do I struggle with feeling worthy?