59. The Enneagram and Marriage

2019-11-12

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Figuring out our personality types has helped Jesse and I build a much stronger marriage based on understanding and love. We’ve shared with your what our personality types are in other episodes, but this time we’re chatting about our perception of the other’s personality. We also dig deep into how having a greater understanding of our differences has helped view them as strengths rather than weaknesses. First off, I’m an Enneagram 8. I am strong-willed, outspoken, bold, and I can be somewhat aggressive. I just wan...

First off, I’m an Enneagram 8. I am strong-willed, outspoken, bold, and I can be somewhat aggressive. I just want to get things done and I’m constantly working on how we can get to the end goal in the most efficient and timely manner. When I’m in an unhealthy place, these traits lead me to run over people just to get the job done.

Jesse, however, is an Enneagram 5. He loves to learn and is constantly collecting bits of knowledge. He is perceptive and innovative and he strives to learn more about how things work, including people. He asks questions and shares his knowledge and is invested in just learning more. When he’s not in a healthy place, his need to learn more can trap him in a place of inaction.

It used to drive me crazy that Jesse wouldn’t take action on anything, but now that we recognize his inaction, he takes strides to move toward action each day. Just as I make it a point to slow down and act from a place of compassion rather than the desire to just get it done. We certainly aren’t perfect, but we now view our differences as strengths and help each other stay in a healthy place for our personality types.

In This Episode:

[00:26] Welcome back. We have some really great news to share.

[01:55] Butcher boxes are saving our lives this week. Mary Kay Timewise 3-in-1 Cleanser is saving my life.

[07:20] I’ve been reading Come Matter Here by Hannah Brencher, a wonderful recommendation from my sister.

[11:28] How do marriage and the Enneagram tie in with one another.

[12:13] What is the Enneagram?

[14:37] Learn what Jesse has learned about living and being married to an Enneagram 8.

[15:56] What is like to be married to a very strong woman?

[18:30] I share what it is like being married an Enneagram 5.

[25:34] Jesse’s ability to build relationships is something that I learn from every day.

[27:00] Sometimes Jesse checks out when we’re having a conversation, but it’s because I travel down so many rabbit trails while talking.

[30:19] Learning more about our personality types has helped us to build a stronger marriage through understanding.