064: SNCTM with Daniel D’Ottavio: Erotic Performance Art, Exploration Through Anonymity, and the Deeper Meaning Behind Impact Play

In this week's episode, Elle and Vee chat about all things SNCTM, the private members club that the girls have always wanted a peek inside.  They cover the club, but also go super deep with their guest on the deeper meaning behind impact play, his love and adoration of his burlesque champion wife, and their artistic partnership.

Daniel D’Ottavio: his role in SNCTM, and his origin story with his wife, Lou Lou D’vil, the creative director or SNCTM. (1:03)

Monogamy and SNCTM: The choice to stay monogamous while working for a sex club, what your first sex club experience feels like, and learning about the consent culture. (5:27)

Erotic storytelling: How telling stories through erotic arts lead Daniel and his wife to SNCTM, and how her creative direction helped create a femme-empowered, luscious environment. (9:41)

What to expect at a SNCTM party: ambiance, service, clientele, privacy (including masks and NDA’s). (13:54)

Accountability and communication: How have these experiences affected Daniel’s personal growth, and his relationship growth? (18:15)

Types of performances at SNCTM: aerial, kink, and theatrical erotic artistry. (20:52)

Kink workshops: Discovering kink and impact play, and evolving into an educator. (23:05)

Catharsis and therapeutic benefits of impact play: The deeper meaning behind kinks and fetishes. (25:01)

The importance of having spaces to explore sex, kink, fetish and fantasy. (31:36)

How has SNCTM evolved since ownership changed in 2019? Consent rules, NDA’s, masks, one-strike policy, single women. (33:30)

SNCTM: fever dreams and sexual fantasies, and the emphasis on having a female-empowered environment. (42:21)

Nuggets from being part of the lifestyle community. (45:30)

Websites:

SNCTM

Cocoon

Instagram: 

@dottavio77 

@snctmsociety

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