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"We are not born with the secret of how to live [well], and too many of us never learn it. There is nothing cold-blooded or mechanical about it, but there are many things we have to learn to do . . . the first thing is to realize we've probably been looking in the wrong place. The source is not outside us; it is within." —Mildred Newman & Bernard Berkowitz, authors of How to Be Your Own Best Friend
Befriend yourself and you have a friend for life.
This simple saying, often expressed, while true, is often not understood as to how it can be possible. But the most awesome news I want to share with you today is that you have had the answers to so much of the peace, calm, and clarity you have been seeking traveling within you all this time. How to tap into and what exactly are you looking for? That is what we are going to talk about today.
Inspired by a book that was written in 1971 Mildred Newman and her husband, both psychologists, Bernard Berkowitz, the title was originally How To be Your Own Best Friend: A Conversation With Two Psychoanalysts. Consisting of only 74 pages, their insights are shared, as this title suggests, in conversation form - questions followed by answers.
While little known when the couple originally self-published, it was with the help of author, screenwriter and director Nora Ephron, who upon reading the book quite liked it so she introduced the authors to her book agent upon which it then became a national bestseller (learn more about how she helped in this article published earlier this year). Picking up my own copy and zooming through it, I found common sense advice, grounded in approachable guidance sharing reminders and nudges of how we can help ourselves out but often are too timid to do so due to a variety of cultural circumstances and pressures.
As I read, the overlap of choosing to be your best friend and finding and experiencing contentment quickly became apparent, and having just wrapped up producing all of the filmed lessons for TSLL's Contentment Masterclass, as you will discover when you enroll, knowing ourselves and honoring what we find to be true for ourselves resides at the core of a fulfilling life. In the words of the authors, becoming our best friend is sage wisdom to follow. However, what does that look like? Being our own best friend? That's what I want to share with you today and the benefits of doing so.
Let's get started.
View the Show Notes on the blog: https://thesimplyluxuriouslife.com/podcast379
222: Oliver Gee of The Earful Tower Podcast
221: Waking Up in Paris Author Sonia Choquette - A Conversation on Reinvention
220: Traveling Alone Well
219: How to Cultivate Surroundings for Everyday Contentment
218: Doubt the Default - How My Trip to France Woke Me Up
217: French Trip Travel Musings, Part Trois
216: French Trip Travel Musings, Part Deux
215: French Trip Travel Musings (Why Not . . . Make the Effort?), Part Une
214: Ask Shannon 2018
213: The Art of Savoring: How to Invite the Skill of Savoring Into Our Lives
212: The Six Pillars of Good Health
211: How to Stay Relevant in Our Ever-Changing World & Embrace Each Year More than the Last
210: 10 Simple Things We Unnecessarily Complicate
209: Adding French Touches to Your Life and Space at Home
208: How to Create an All-Around Healthy Life
207: Welcoming the Gifts of a Garden & Yard When the Yard is Small or the Time is Short
206: Simple LifeHacks to Get Back on Track
205: What to Do When You Don't Know How the Future Will Unfold
204: How to Build a Life Network to Optimize Your Professional and Personal Life
203: M.L. Longworth's New Provençal Mystery and Life in Provence
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