Atomic Habits day 78

We don’t choose our earliest habits, we imitate them. We follow the

script handed down by our friends and family, our church or school,

our local community and society at large. Each of these cultures and

groups comes with its own set of expectations and standards—when

and whether to get married, how many children to have, which

holidays to celebrate, how much money to spend on your child’s

birthday party. In many ways, these social norms are the invisible rules

that guide your behavior each day. You’re always keeping them in

mind, even if they are at the not top of your mind. Often, you follow the

habits of your culture without thinking, without questioning, and

sometimes without remembering. As the French philosopher Michel

de Montaigne wrote, “The customs and practices of life in society

sweep us along.”

Most of the time, going along with the group does not feel like a

burden. Everyone wants to belong. If you grow up in a family that

rewards you for your chess skills, playing chess will seem like a very

attractive thing to do. If you work in a job where everyone wears

expensive suits, then you’ll be inclined to splurge on one as well. If all

of your friends are sharing an inside joke or using a new phrase, you’ll

want to do it, too, so they know that you “get it.” Behaviors are

attractive when they help us fit in.

We imitate the habits of three groups in particular:

1. The close.

2. The many.

3. The powerful.

Each group offers an opportunity to leverage the 2nd Law of

Behavior Change and make our habits more attractive.

1. Imitating the Close

Proximity has a powerful effect on our behavior. This is true of the

physical environment, as we discussed in Chapter 6, but it is also true

of the social environment.

We pick up habits from the people around us. We copy the way our

parents handle arguments, the way our peers flirt with one another,

the way our coworkers get results.

🟢📚هایلایت قسمت ۷۸ کتاب عادت های اتمی 📚🟢

✅ earliest habits : ابتدایی ترین عادت ها

✅ imitate: تقلید کردن

✅ script: سناریو، نوشته

✅ church : کلیسا

✅ community : جامعه

✅ society : اجتماع

✅ culture : فرهنگ

✅ expectation : توقع

✅ married : متاهل

✅ celebrate : جشن گرفتن

✅ birthday party : جشن تولد

✅ invisible : مخفی

✅ questioning :زیر سوال بردن

✅ customs: رسوم

✅ burden : سختی

✅ grow up : بزرگ شدن

✅ chess skill: مهارت شطرنج

✅ expensive suit : کت شلوار گران

✅ inclined: متمایل

✅ particular : مخصوص

✅ offer: پیشنهاد دادن

✅ opportunity : فرصت

✅ leverage : کمک به انجام کاری کردن

✅ proximity : نزدیگی

✅ powerful : قدرتمند

✅ environment : محیط

✅ pick up :برداشتن، یادگرفتن

✅ copy : کپی‌ کردن

✅ handle arguments: مدیریت کردن مشاجره ها

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