Could it be that today’s increased awareness about emotions, and our obsession with mental health issues, are actually causing more mental health issues? More people are doing therapy, but are those people potentially doing it wrong?Therapist, counselor, and author Lori Gottlieb says that a lot of our culture’s approach to mental health is wrong.In today’s podcast, we discuss what it takes to do therapy effectively. We discuss the prevalence of mental health content online and why that may be a bad thing. We talk about how people’s misunderstandings of vulnerability and boundaries can backfire. And we get into th...
Could it be that today’s increased awareness about emotions, and our obsession with mental health issues, are actually causing more mental health issues? More people are doing therapy, but are those people potentially doing it wrong?
Therapist, counselor, and author Lori Gottlieb says that a lot of our culture’s approach to mental health is wrong.
In today’s podcast, we discuss what it takes to do therapy effectively. We discuss the prevalence of mental health content online and why that may be a bad thing. We talk about how people’s misunderstandings of vulnerability and boundaries can backfire. And we get into the effect social media might be having on this.
Enjoy.
CHAPTERS
Chapters
- 00:00:00 Introduction: What If We're Getting Therapy Wrong?
- 00:01:25 How to Actually Do Therapy Well
- 00:03:25 Idiot Compassion vs. Wise Compassion
- 00:04:31 The Presenting Problem vs. The Real Problem
- 00:06:28 The Prisoner Shaking the Bars
- 00:08:23 Coming to Unknow Yourself
- 00:09:55 How to Take Advice Well and the Help-Rejecting Complainer
- 00:13:40 Defense Mechanisms: Why We Cling to What Hurts Us
- 00:15:40 The Toxic Rescuer Dynamic
- 00:18:03 The Stages of Change and Why Maintenance Matters Most
- 00:20:53 The Ripple Effects of Change Nobody Talks About
- 00:21:59 When Your Partner Doesn't Want You to Change
- 00:24:09 Small Changes vs. Extreme Overhauls
- 00:25:27 The Mental Health Crisis Paradox
- 00:26:43 Why Men Think They're the Only Ones
- 00:30:00 The Permission to Be Human
- 00:32:30 The Danger of Trauma Inflation and Concept Creep
- 00:33:49 Rupture and Repair: The Lost Art of Relationship
- 00:34:50 The Prevalence Inflation Hypothesis
- 00:36:51 Performative Vulnerability vs. Real Vulnerability
- 00:38:30 Choose Your Audience: Vulnerability Isn't for Everyone
- 00:40:02 Boundaries Are With Yourself, Not Others
- 00:41:18 The Cut-Off Culture and the Loneliness Epidemic
- 00:43:28 Flexibility: The Number One Quality in a Partner
- 00:44:11 Sometimes the Friction Is the Point
- 00:45:23 When Therapy Becomes the Problem
- 00:46:28 The Worst Business Model Ever: Knowing When to Leave Therapy
- 00:48:53 The Human Condition as It Happens
- 00:50:53 Authenticity Over Credentials
- 00:51:39 What's Next and the TV Adaptation
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