Why It’s So Hard to Make Friends as an Adult

Making friends is hard, and unfortunately, as you get older, it gets harder.

In this episode, we look at research behind friendships, plus the complicating factors people experience in making new friends as they get older.

And for anyone struggling with their social lives, we share practical tips on how to meet and keep new friends.

Enjoy and, good luck out there.

CHAPTERS

Chapters

• 00:00:00 Introduction: Mexico City Birthday Trip and Getting Robbed
• 00:04:20 Why Travel Builds Intimacy Faster
• 00:05:33 The Four Variables That Create Friendship
• 00:07:59 Remote Work Is Killing Workplace Friendships
• 00:11:16 The Partner and Kids Problem
• 00:13:55 When Your Friends Have Kids
• 00:18:50 The Friendship Paradox of Your Twenties
• 00:22:46 College: The Friendship Utopia We Can't Recreate
• 00:24:38 Be Aggressive on Hobbies and Interests
• 00:31:50 The Follow-Up Problem
• 00:34:11 Lead With Generosity
• 00:36:22 The Four Levels of Friendship
• 00:41:47 Why Friendship Matters More Than Romance
• 00:42:30 Final Wisdom: If You Want a Friend, Be a Friend

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