E25 You Are Not Your Feelings: Identity and Emotional Intelligence for Women Leaders

2025-11-19

Do you look like a successful, high-achieving woman from the outside, but inside you are battling doubt, overwhelm, or emotional whiplash from one hard conversation or email? In this episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey breaks down the connection between identity, emotional intelligence, and leadership so you can stop letting your feelings run the show and start leading from a grounded, confident center. You will hear how your brain creates an identity story from everyday triggers, why stuffing your emotions or...

Do you look like a successful, high-achieving woman from the outside, but inside you are battling doubt, overwhelm, or emotional whiplash from one hard conversation or email? In this episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey breaks down the connection between identity, emotional intelligence, and leadership so you can stop letting your feelings run the show and start leading from a grounded, confident center.

You will hear how your brain creates an identity story from everyday triggers, why stuffing your emotions or spiraling in them both lead to inaction, and what it looks like to respond as an emotionally intelligent leader instead. Lynsey walks you through her SPARK process so you can recognize your emotions, realign with who you truly are, and choose actions that match the woman and leader you want to be.

Whether you are navigating imposter syndrome, decision fatigue, or just a season where life feels heavier than usual, this episode will help you reclaim your identity, reset your self-talk, and build work life alignment that actually feels sustainable.

In this episode, you will learn:

The difference between your true identity and your current feelings
How emotional intelligence helps you notice, name, and navigate emotions in real time
The SPARK framework to move from emotional reactivity to intentional response
How to use identity statements and a daily voice memo to retrain your inner dialogue
Why curating your inputs (people, content, environment) is critical for your mindset and leadership

This is your invitation to stop freestyling your emotional world and start designing it on purpose so you can lead with confidence, clarity, and your full spark.

Line to take with you, “You are not your worst thought on your worst day. Your emotions are real, but they do not get to define your identity.”

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