Assertive vrs Aggressive. Is it really gender?

Suzie Health Solutions assists people to  enroll and be educated about healthcare. As a husband and wife team for the last seven years, we have a different look at this ironic joke. 

The ironic joke is two people back to back. One asks the other, “What is the difference between assertive and aggressive?” The other person replies, “gender”.  This has weighed on Matt’s mind for a few days. 

It can be very true socially however you can remove this irony from your life. It is a very square peg in round hole situation. It also occurs in the workplace. How do you become a better you?