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Figuring out how to give Effective Negative Consequences can be tricky as many parents struggle with implementing all five elements that make a consequence successful.
The goal of a consequence is to teach them what they should have done instead and to encourage them not to repeat the negative behavior.
Consequences are only so successful and should not be a parent's sole focus when it comes to changing behavior. Parents that focus exclusively on consequences will damage their relationship with their child long-term.
In addition to consequences, parents should be looking for ways to acknowledge and increase positive behaviors. Focusing on the good can be hard for so many parents because when our children are misbehaving it’s hard to recognize that they are doing anything right. Or we feel that by rewarding them instead of punishing them, they will not learn their lesson.
Using Effective Positive Rewards in conjunction with Effective Negative Consequences allows for positive and sustainable change as kids tend to be more motivated by positive interactions than negative interactions.
Effective Negative Consequences has its place and should be given when the behavior warrants.
Knowing when to use Effective Negative Consequence and Effective Positive Rewards takes some skill and understanding. If you are struggling to figure when to use Effective Negative Consequences or Effective Positive Rewards, sign-up for coaching within the Smarter Parenting Club. During a Parenting Coaching session, we can discuss your unique situation and come up with individualized answers that fit you and your child.
For full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
Ep #105: Helping kids who struggle with correction
Ep #104: Investing in your child and your relationship
Ep #103: Creating a foundation for success with Following Instructions
Ep #102: Helping kids stay focused and on task
Ep #101: Teaching your kid to function without you
Ep #100: How to give consequences that work
Ep #99: Creating connection with your child
Ep #98: Helping kids go back to school
Ep #97: Feeling hopeful for the future
Ep #96: Strengthening emotional connections with your child
Ep #95:Why video games are so addictive and what parents can do
Ep #94: Improving communication and increasing comprehension: Part 2
Ep #93: Improving communication and increasing comprehension: Part 1
Ep #92: Creating change and increasing confidence: Part 2
Ep #91: Creating change and increasing confidence: Part 1
Ep #90: Dealing with frustrating situations: Part 2
Ep #89: Special episode-Helping your kids navigate what is happening in the world
Ep #88: Dealing with frustrating situations
Ep #87: Understanding what causes tantrums
Ep #86: Why kids act up
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