In this episode, Dr. Shaw discusses how we overcome grief and how we allow ourselves to have the feelings that we have. We cannot suppress certain feelings.. we have to feel them. For her personally, self-observation followed by reflection on her own behavior leads her to her own transformation or adjustment from one mood to another. She questions whether there is sometimes a need to be sad. Sometimes there may be an unconscious addiction to feeling a certain way. Sometimes depression feeds us. Sometimes there are external forces that steer us to negativity. Sometimes we are the cause of our own suffering. Regardless of the causes, it's important to observe ourselves and recognize the state of our being in order to adjust and have the most fulfilling lives.