EP47: Are You Demisexual?

💜 Demisexuality Explained: Why Emotional Connection Comes Before Attraction | Ivana Models

Ever wondered why you just don’t feel instant sexual attraction like others do? Do you need to truly know someone before any attraction kicks in? You might be demisexual—and that’s completely valid!

In this episode of Ivana Models, we’re breaking down demisexuality, a sexual orientation that falls within the asexual spectrum. While some people feel sexual attraction instantly, demisexual individuals only experience it after forming a strong emotional bond.

We’ll explore:
✔ What it means to be demisexual
✔ How demisexuality fits into the asexual spectrum
✔ Common misconceptions about demisexuality
✔ Dating struggles in a world that prioritizes instant attraction
✔ How to know if you might be demisexual

🌟 Whether you identify as demisexual, are questioning, or just want to learn more, this conversation is for you!

💬 What Is Demisexuality?

Demisexuality is a valid and real sexual orientation where a person does not feel sexual attraction until a strong emotional connection has been established. This differs from most people, who might feel immediate attraction based on looks, chemistry, or energy.

For demisexual individuals, attraction is a slow process—it takes trust, depth, and connection before sexual attraction emerges.

❓ FAQs About Demisexuality 1️⃣ Is Demisexuality Just Having High Standards?

No! Demisexuality isn’t about being picky. Picky people still feel attraction—they just choose to act on it selectively. Demisexual people, however, don’t experience attraction at all until an emotional bond is formed.

2️⃣ Can Demisexual People Have a High Sex Drive?

Yes! Sexual attraction and sex drive are different. A demisexual person can have a high libido but won’t necessarily feel sexually drawn to someone unless an emotional bond exists.

3️⃣ Is Demisexuality the Same as Sapiosexuality?

No. Sapiosexuality is attraction to intelligence, while demisexuality is about emotional connection. Someone can be both, but they are distinct orientations.

4️⃣ Can Demisexual People Enjoy Casual Sex?

It depends! Some demisexual individuals enjoy sex but usually only after forming an emotional connection. Others may not be interested in casual encounters at all.

5️⃣ How Can I Know If I’m Demisexual?

If you rarely or never feel sexual attraction at first sight, and only experience it after deep emotional bonding, you might be demisexual.

If you relate to statements like:
✔ "I can’t feel sexually attracted to someone unless I deeply know them."
✔ "Hookups or quick flings don’t appeal to me."
✔ "I just don’t ‘get’ instant attraction like others seem to."

Then you might be on the demisexual spectrum!

💡 Demisexuality in a Hookup Culture

In a world that celebrates instant chemistry and fast romance, demisexual people may feel out of place. Friends may talk about finding someone “hot” instantly, but if that doesn’t resonate with you—you’re not broken. You’re just wired differently.

Demisexuality is a strength. It prioritizes deep emotional intimacy and meaningful connections, creating strong, fulfilling relationships. If you’re demisexual, embrace it—your way of experiencing attraction is just as valid as anyone else’s.

💬 Let’s Talk!

Do you identify as demisexual or are you just learning about it? Drop a comment below and share your experiences or ask any questions! 💬👇

Let’s build a supportive and open-minded community together!