#309 Are you a perfectionist?

We are all perfectionists in some way, shape or form. Planning a wedding can certainly heighten our perfectionist tendencies. And while we all know that wedding planning can be overwhelming, guess what? Overwhelm causes procrastination! Our guest on this episode is going to give some tips on how to avoid these tendencies and procrastination and set you on the right track.

Our guest is Nicole Baker. Nicole is a Coach who helps perfectionists not only set goals, but actually follow through on them. Having grown up in a family immersed in the personal development world, she has been attending seminars and absorbing personal growth tools her whole life. She has since helped hundreds of perfectionists accomplish goals ranging from starting their own businesses, to starting and staying committed to a morning routine. She has been featured in Authority Magazine, Thrive Global, The Self Helpless Podcast and The Mighty plus is the CEO of Life Coach Baker LLC and the host of The Life Coach Baker Podcast.

Nicole’s 3 types of perfectionists:

1. The Overachiever: Sees the very high peak goal and thinks they need to have reached it yesterday
2. The Procrastinator: Gets overwhelmed and then distracted. Puts things off until they are “motivated”.
3. The People Pleaser: Do not trust their own voice and put others on a pedestal

Nicole's tips for perfectionists:

• Slow Down
• Find a mantra you can come back to that helps calm you down and bring you back into yourself.
• Trust your own voice.
• Listen to a personal development podcast that helps center you.
• Read a good personal development book.
• Hire a therapist, coach, or mentor.
• Start that inner work.
• Start at step one, and move one step at a time.

Links We Referenced

Nicole's Podcast

Take the Quiz! What type of perfectionist are you?

Nicole on Instagram: @lifecoachbaker

Peerspace

Quotes:

“Are you teaching people how to be perfect, Nicole?” - Michelle

“I’m doing the opposite. I’m like let’s be messy, let’s release control, let’s take action and not feel like it has to be perfect.” - Nicole

“Overachiever - hella motivated, very, very good at getting shit done. Procrastinator - they’re really good at dreaming. Procrastinators are phenomenal at saying, ‘I want this type of life.’ It’s just the follow through that they have issues with. And then people pleasers - they’re so empathetic. They love to care about other people’s feelings, which is definitely a trait to be admired. However, when it comes at the cost of your own voice, that’s when it’s the issue.” - Nicole

“And the biggest thing about slowing down, it’s not like going and laying on your couch and watching Netflix, unless that’s your jam. It’s all about slowing down your mind and getting present, because if we’re not present for our life, why are we working so hard to build it?” - Nicole 

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