Society & Culture:Relationships
Best way to get consent, length of ideal sex session, creating connection on a date, top 2 languages of love, discussing fantasies that aren't mainstream
R (36), S (27), and G (26) answer your questions about dating and sex.
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This episode covers:
- What's a good first date activity? What's one that is boring or overdone?
- What's the best way to get consent? Explicit and direct, or a bit more nuanced? Tell us how you tell us yes.
- What’s a way you like for a man to create connection on a date?
- What are your top 2 languages of love?
- After we match, if you don't respond the first time I send a message, should I send another?
- What kind of aggressiveness do you like in a man, and what kind is scary?
- Rate your sex drive compared to the average woman’s
- How do you like to discuss fantasies that aren't mainstream, or might have sensitivities attached to them?
- How long is your ideal sex session (the in and out portion, not the foreplay)? What is the minimum amount of time that is satisfactory? conversely, how much time before it’s too long?
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No kiss by the 2nd date=move on, best activity for 1st date, does work stress affect your libido, and more!
Who pays on 1st date, favorite foreplay spots, how to ask if she likes what you're doing during sex, attractive parts of men's bodies, things she appreciates when you do
Turn-ons during sex, caring about how much you make, how to tell her you're excited for sex, how you can create connection on a date
21: work affecting libido, when to talk about sex, aggressiveness you like in a man
20: who pays on 1st date, do you care how much a guy makes, what can he do to help her make clear sexual requests, how does work stress affect dating and sex, optimal sex session length
19: First date topics, languages of love, women's short answers, Instagram, older vs younger matches, last things you appreciate
18: Non-American perspective, part 3: do you enjoy teasing men, best venues to meet potential partners, who pays on the first dates
17: Non-American perspective: wanting sex more than he does, favorite foreplay spots, favorite parts of men's bodies, breast touching, favorite ways for man to tell you he's excited for sex
16: Non-American perspective: good first dates, creating connection, stress affecting dating & libido, asking for feedback during sex
15: Frequent travelers: How to tell she's not interested, turn-ons before & during sex, best offline ways to meet, top languages of love
14: Frequent travelers: sending a 2nd message, who pays on first date, dating preferences in 20s vs 30s, men being emotionally present, talk on Instagram vs app
13: best places to meet besides online, turn-ons before sex, turn-ons during sex, opposites attracting, when she follows you Instagram, final things they appreciate men doing
12: how can men help when her work affects libido, how to tell she has a high sex drive, kickstarting her sex drive, first date topics, length of sex, how to help her ask for what she wants