S3E17 People Pleasing is Manipulation

People pleasing is a form of manipulation. 

Yes, you read that right - people pleasing is actually a form of manipulation. 

Today's episode is going to be one of those truth bomb-uncomfortable-ouch feeling type of episodes. Go ahead and brace yourself because today we’re going to talk about how people-pleasing is a form of manipulation. Join me in today’s episode and learn how you can stop engaging in people-pleasing tendencies and reclaim your authentic self.  

In today’s episode, we cover: 

• People-pleasing and codependency 

• Trauma responses in relational traumas 

• Please and appease as a form of manipulation 

• Reclaiming your authentic self  

Quotes 

[00:13:40] These were all super, super, important defenses in order to help us survive these painful and traumatic childhoods. What happens however, is that when we continue to carry these patterns into our adult lives and in our adult relationships, it can become really, really problematic. 

[00:16:10] When you're not showing up in your relationships with who you authentically are, because you are trying to get something from someone else, then you're not in an authentic connection. You're not having authentic communication; you are not engaging in authentic relationships. Instead, you're showing up the way you think others want you to be. Or you're showing up the way that you think others want you to be. 

 

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