⁠Your Childhood Scars Can Make You A Better Husband - Khaya Thusi

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[S1] EPISODE 34: WHY MARRIAGE IS THE BEST OPTION FOR MEN?

In this episode, we speak about what it really takes to be a happy husband—a journey shaped by sacrifice, legacy, and the quiet, unspoken wisdom passed down through generations. Growing up with parents who have been married for over 30 years, Khaya Thusi reflects on how in his father’s retirement & newfound openness he has inspired him to work harder, not only to provide for his own children but to leave a lasting legacy.

Marriage, he says, isn’t just about one grand heroic gesture but about the daily commitment to live for one’s family, surrendering ego and opening up for God to work on his heart as a man. Marriage is designed to refine us, placing healthy boundaries around our lives and shifting our focus from self-centered goals to building something greater with our spouses.

 

These boundaries—grounded in faith, tradition, and law—challenge us to become men who live up to the responsibility of fatherhood and partnership. In moments when the journey feels tough, it’s those boundaries that keep us grounded, helping us grow through the struggles and reminding us of the beauty and stability that committed love brings. Real love, after all, is about finding strength in the restrictions and realising that growth requires both sacrifice and intentionality.

Finally, with two decades of marriage combined, Blaque & Khaya share hard-earned insights on what it takes to grow as a husband, father, and man. We share lessons learned about the value of vulnerability, communication, and dreaming as a team. We’ve faced challenges together with our wives, made mistakes, but emerged stronger. This episode unpacks these lessons—everything from intimacy and patience to the joy of seeing love deepen over the years.

It’s an honest, inspiring look at how marriage not only changes but refines, bringing out a calibre of love and leadership that only comes through years of committed growth.