EP 237 Are You Stuck Playing Small to Stay Loved?

Hey y’all—Brig here. Today I’m bringing you a topic that might hit close to home: playing small just to stay loved. Whether it’s at work, in relationships, or even around family, too many of us shrink ourselves to make others feel more comfortable. I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to silence your voice, tone yourself down, and wear outdated roles just to keep the peace.

But that strategy? It’s costing you more than you realize.

In this episode, I’m not here to shame you—I’m here to bring awareness. To name the cages. To help you identify the "shrink scripts" you’ve inherited from well-meaning people who didn’t know any better. I’ll show you how to unkage your voice, your body, your mind, and your entire life. Because surviving isn’t the same as living—and queen, it’s time to live unkaged.

What We’ll Dive Into in This Episode:

• Why conditional love is often disguised as safety
• The emotional cost of shrinking yourself in friendships, at work, and at home
• The invisible work no one sees—but that’s changing you daily
• “Shrink scripts” from family, culture, and your own past—and how to rewrite them
• The difference between surviving and thriving
• A powerful voice note exercise to reconnect with your growth

Take Action – Your Uncaging Starts Now

Ask yourself: Where are you still playing small to be loved?

 

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